Saturday, January 19, 2019

DYING WIFE, DEVOTED HUSBAND


John Lewis Jr. in his family's egg business.

Deep among decades of journals kept by the Sisters of Mercy is a touching story of a Chinese egg man and his dying wife. The story exemplifies the compassion and generosity of the religious women who founded Bakersfield's Catholic hospital in 1910. And to some it is a focus of Mercy's 100th anniversary celebration.

One day last fall, Stephanie Weber was working her way through the boxes that held the nuns' daily notes stretching back to the early 1900s. The vice president of fund development for the Friends of Mercy, Weber was preparing an anniversary history display.

Most of the pages were filled with everyday occurrences and thoughts: staffing changes; the activities of individual sisters; celebrations; changes of seasons; one even reflected on the sheep returning to the fields around Bakersfield.

But a page from August 1942 was different. It told the story of a Chinese man who sold eggs to the nuns. One day, the man brought his wife to Mercy Hospital.

"She was admitted in very serious condition and had the added complication of being near term in pregnancy," wrote the nun assigned to keep the journal that day. Her husband "spoke freely to different ones of his wife, their home life and how dearly he loved her. The one thing he wanted was her recovery.

"From talking to the sisters, he learned more and more about our way of thinking and was gradually prepared for the separation which was surely coming. He saw that everything that could be done to save her had been done, but it was evident that God was going to take her to himself. But before going, she gave birth to a dear baby girl, bright and healthy."

The egg man asked the nuns to baptize both his newborn daughter and his wife, before she died. He then left the baby in the nuns' care for a month, while he made arrangements to take "little Joan" home.

In October, he wrote to the nuns: "Enclosed is check. I'm very grateful for the wonderful care given to my wife. I am thankful to the Father for our little girl to take the place of my late wife, whom I so dearly loved. Our baby [has] been a source of great happiness to me. Each night I pray for her. Hoping to see all of you again soon. I am yours truly, John Lewis."

Subsequent journal entries confirm that the egg man continued his relationship with the nuns and he became a Catholic.

As Weber read the letter, she wondered. Her children had gone to school with children of Chinese descent whose last name was Lewis. Could they be related? What had happened to little Joan? Research by Erica Easton, the foundation's annual giving coordinator, revealed Bakersfield-based Farmer John Eggs was founded in the 1920s by a man named John Lewis.

In early December, Easton took a copy of the journal entry to the family's egg ranch on Panama Lane, just west of Fairfax Road. She gave the story to John Lewis Jr., the now deceased egg man's son.

He allowed that the story had to be about his father. As far as he knew, they were the only Chinese Catholic family in Bakersfield who raised chickens and sold eggs. And the baby in the story must be his sister Joan, who lives in Fresno. He promised to confirm that when the family gathered for Christmas.

"Dad never talked about it," Lewis said, during a recent interview. "He never brought it up. We never thought about who took care of Joan when he was a single man, with a newborn baby. It turned out to be Mrs. Kincaid, an older white lady who lived on Niles and helped take care of all of us."

John Jr. said when he read the journal entry about his father, he cried.

"I realized what he must have gone through. You think at that age nobody's going to die or get sick," said John Jr., who chokes up when he talks about it.

After a few years, the egg man remarried. Three boys and three girls were born of this second marriage, with John Jr., who is now 62, being the oldest.

John Jr. said the children never thought about Joan being a half-sister. "We were all just raised together" as one big family.

Joan, now 67 and married to Wendell Lum, works part time for an optometrist. She has five children from a first marriage, two grandchildren and two step-grandchildren.

During a recent interview, Lum said she knew her mother, Hazel, was very sick when she was born. But like her brother, she had been told little about her birth and nothing about her father's struggles.

"The thing I thought was so beautiful was the deep love my father had for my mother," she said. "I knew he loved her. I saw some love letters."

She was also touched by the obvious care the Mercy nuns showed her mother and father, and her.

The journal entry "that just dropped out of the sky" is a wonderful gift, she said.

The story of the eggman was one of several articles written by Dianne Hardisty to observe the 100th anniversary of Mercy Hospital in Bakersfield. It was published in The Bakersfield Californian on March 30, 2010.

 

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